What To Do When He Doesn’t Text You Back – 15 Tips

Are you wondering what to do when he doesn’t text you back? It can be very frustrating. Is he still interested? Is he just busy?

Here you will learn exactly what to do to maximize your chances of hearing back. I have also included some actual texts you can send, depending on your style.

When He Doesn’t Text You Back

When he doesn’t text you back his feelings may have changed or perhaps he is super busy. Remain calm, wait a few days, consider the possible reasons, discuss it with someone close, focus on yourself, keep busy with friends and family, recognize this is normal, and wait to hear back. 

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What to Do When He Doesn’t Text You Back

  1. Remain Calm
  2. Wait a Few Days
  3. Consider Why
  4. Discuss With Someone You Trust
  5. Do Not Text Him
  6. Know That It Is Normal
  7. Move On
  8. Focus on You
  9. Go Out More
  10. Try Something New
  11. Travel
  12. Spend Time With Friends and Family
  13. Learn From It
  14. Recognize Time Heals
  15. Confront Him

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1. Remain Calm

It is what it is! Do not react. Don’t go crazy, this will only push him away. Take a deep breath. Don’t assume anything. Avoid negative thoughts. Maybe he will text back. Follow our tips below to maximize your chances of hearing back.

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2. Do Not Text Him

Do not blow up his phone. Texting is like a tennis match. Hit the ball over the net, and wait for it to come back.

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3. Wait a Few Days

Do not double text. Wait 3 days to send another text, even if you are used to texting multiple times per day. You must control yourself and be disciplined. I know it is hard.

Give him time to miss you and see that you are not crazy for him. This will make him want you more.

4. Discuss With Someone You Trust

Talk out your feelings with a friend or family member who you trust. It is healthy to talk about it with someone and may be helpful to get an opinion from a person who isn’t in the situation.

5. Consider Why

Do you have any idea why he hasn’t texted back? Consider his perspective. Is there anything you can think of that you did or said that might have upset him? Perhaps something came up, maybe he lost his phone, or possibly there is someone else.

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6. Know That It Is Normal

The truth is this happens all the time. Guys text multiple girls at once. Either he is not feeling it with you or maybe he has gotten serious with someone else.

He also may be busy with work, family, or life obligations. Whatever the case is, you are not his priority.

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7. Move On

Your best course of action is to forget about him and move on. There are many fish in the sea. If he is going to come back to you he will do it on his own. When you don’t contact him it makes him wonder about you. Making him curious puts you in a good position for him to reach back out.

8. Focus on You

When he doesn’t text you back, and you are feeling upset, you want to keep your mind off of him. Focus on some self-improvement. Read a book, head to the gym, go shopping for some new clothing, catch up on your work, get some sleep, etc.

9. Go Out More

If he doesn’t text you back, keep your mind off of him by staying busy. Go out more, socialize more, make some new friends, and meet new guys. Keep yourself occupied and do not contact him.

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10. Try Something New

Now is a great time to take up a new hobby or join a club. Perhaps you have been thinking about trying a spin class, or taking up Pilates.

11. Recognize Time Heals

You might be feeling upset or unbalanced. Time heals! You will get over this guy, no matter what. You will eventually meet someone else who you like even more and you’ll be thankful that this guy didn’t text you back.

12. Spend Time With Friends and Family

The best thing you can do is to be around loved ones. Close friends and family will make you feel better. Their warmth, understanding, and support will be very helpful when you are feeling down.

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13. Learn From It

It’s never going to get easier, you are just going to get better. Know that guys will come and go, and if it is meant to be, it will be. Take it as a lesson, and move on.

14. Travel

A great way to get your mind off a guy when he doesn’t text back is to take a trip. Traveling is fun and exciting and may give you the recharge you need. Go away with friends or family to somewhere you have never been.

15. Confront Him

If you can see him in person, without stalking him, ask him why he did not text you back. Be polite and respectful, don’t be mean or accusatory. Confronting him shows maturity and self-respect. This might make him reconsider.

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What to Text When He Doesn’t Reply

When he doesn’t reply try sending a text that is interesting and evokes his curiosity. You may want to ask him about something he’s into, like a hobby or a passion. Perhaps you could ask for his help or advice about something he is good at. You might want to ask him a personal question.

Responses for When Someone Doesn’t Text Back

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When a Guy Doesn’t Respond to an Emotional Text

The reason why a guy doesn’t respond to an emotional text is because he doesn’t know how to react or if he even wants to. He may be considering your relationship and deciding if he is still interested. An emotional text will be an additional burden and will most likely push him away. Let him come back on his own time.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Should I Text Him Back After He Ignored Me For Days?

Yes, you should text him back after he has ignored you for 3 days. You want to gently remind him that you still exist, without being reactive. Do not assume the worst, perhaps something out of his control may have come up.

Should I Text Again If No Reply?

If no reply wait 3 days to text again. Send a very casual follow up text just to say hi and check in. You do not want to make any assumptions, jump to any conclusions, or write anything crazy that you will regret. Sending a follow up text will give you some peace of mind.


When he doesn’t text you back, don’t panic or jump to conclusions. Give him some time and space, there are reasons for his silence.

Avoid bombarding him with texts or calls. Respect his space, you don’t want to come across as needy or desperate. Focus on yourself and your own well-being. Engage in activities that keep you busy, and don’t let his lack of response affect your self-esteem.

Wait 3 days and then communicate openly and honestly. If you’re genuinely concerned or confused about his silence, calmly express your feelings and ask for clarification.

Don’t make assumptions or overanalyze the situation. Consider his past behavior and communication patterns. If he has a history of being inconsistent or unreliable, it may be worth considering if this is the right relationship for you.

Trust your instincts. If his lack of response becomes a recurring issue and you consistently feel neglected and ignored, it may be a sign that you aren’t a priority.

Don’t put your life on hold waiting for his response. Explore other opportunities and focus on building connections with people who value you in their lives.

Farzana Tajnin
Farzana Tajnin

Hi, I’m Zana, the proud co-owner of this amazing website. I live in NYC, studied relationship psychology at NYU, and got my dating and relationship coaching certification at MI.

I live, breath, and sleep relationship advice, and I’m always learning. Think of me as a dependable friend on your journey to find love.

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