What to Text a Guy after a First Kiss (Your Total Guide to Post-Kiss Talk)

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Are you struggling to figure out what to text a guy after a first kiss?

It might have been amazing. Perhaps it was like in the movies, where you felt time stand still, and there was only you and him.

Or maybe it was the complete opposite. Maybe it was one of the worst kisses of your life, making you visibly cringe whenever you think about it.

Regardless of if the kiss goes at the top of your list or if it was a complete miss, you’ve got something else to worry about: what to say next.

That’s what we’re here for. We’ll help you navigate the texting world and craft the perfect message.

Let’s start by examining your side of the equation.

What Kind of Relationship Are You Hoping to Establish?

The first thing you need to think about here is the kind relationship you’re hoping for.

If you’re just looking for a casual fling, then you’ll want to steer clear of overly emotional messages. Stick to light, sexy, and flirty texts as much as you can.

Now, those who are looking for a relationship need to have a little more caution. While it’s perfectly fine to use sexy and flirty texts to pique his interest, don’t focus only on the physical or that’s all he’ll think you want.

At the same time, you’ll need to hold back a little when it comes to the emotional parts. Don’t go overboard and tell him he’s your soulmate right after the first kiss, in other words.

What if you just want to be friends, or you don’t want to see him again at all? Our advice: just be honest.

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Basic Texting Rules

Don’t text him too much.

"No one likes when someone they hardly know blows up their phone."

No one likes when someone they hardly know blows up their phone. At best, you’ll come off like an overexcited puppy.

And at the worst? You’ll look positively creepy.

The solution, like in many other things, is moderation. Avoid texting him too often.

If you’re not sure how much “too often” is, you can follow his lead a little and see how much he’s texting you. Otherwise, another good option is to text him just as much as you need to make future plans with him.

Keep it cool.

This part is all about the emotional aspect. Even if you’re completely head over heels for him already, you do not want to look obsessed.

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Feel free to tell him a little about your feelings. Just try and tone it down a little bit so you don’t overwhelm him from the get-go.

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Things to Text a Guy after a First Kiss

Let him know you’re ready for another one.

If the kiss went really well and you’re confident in your technique, stun him with your boldness. Go all out and ask him for another one.

This demonstrates to him that you’re a woman who knows what she wants. And there’s something simply irresistible about that.

He’ll be wondering if it just got hotter outside or if all that heat is coming from you.


  • “I loved kissing you last night. I know I’m ready for the next one. ;)”
  • “I can’t wait to kiss you again.”

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Tease him a little bit.

"By teasing him a little bit, you're hinting (pretty clearly) that you want more while keeping it light and fun."

When you definitely want more, but you’re unsure what he’s thinking, this is the best approach.

By teasing him a little bit, you’re hinting (pretty clearly) that you want more while keeping it light and fun. He’ll be tempted to take the bait.


  • “Was that all you got?”
  • “I think you’ll need to demonstrate your kissing technique to me a little more…”

Is love in the air for you? Let him know!

What if you felt the sparks flying between you during the kiss and know there’s something more there?

You’ve heard the saying that honesty is the best policy, and we agree. This doesn’t mean tell him you’re madly in love with him, though.

But it does mean to let him know you think you’re off to a great start, or something else equally casual and cute.


  • “Wow, I haven’t been able to get you out of my head after that kiss.”
  • “I’ve been thinking about you today…”

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Get him hooked on you with a little positive reinforcement and compliment him.

"If he did something that really made your toes curl in pleasure, tell him about it."

Hey, we all love compliments. He’s no exception.

So if he did something that really made your toes curl in pleasure, tell him about it. It checks so many boxes: it strokes his ego, makes him feel appreciated, and settles his nerves in the event he’s feeling anxious.

Plus, the positive reinforcement will get him hooked on you.


  • “You’re such a great kisser!”
  • “That was definitely one of the best kisses I’ve ever had.”
  • “Your lips were so soft, it made my knees weak.”

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You’ll get advice from relationship coach Amy North. With her on your side, you’ll have him craving you in no time.

Be honest with him if you didn’t enjoy it.

Was the kiss a little lackluster?

Don’t feel guilty or as if you need to lie. It’s important to be honest here again, because you don’t want to lead him on if there’s nothing there.

Tell him what’s going on as nicely as you can. There’s no need to be overly critical, either.


  • “I had a lot of fun with you last night, but I’m not really feeling a spark with you.”  
  • “Thanks for the date! I don’t think I’m ready for us to keep moving forward romantically, but I’d love to hang out with you as friends, if that’s okay with you?”

Is he a bad kisser, but you want to keep seeing him? No worries!

What do you do when the kiss was bad, but you’re still interested?

This could be the case if he’s cute, but maybe a bit inexperienced. And that’s okay.

In this case, we suggest using a teasing approach again. Kissing is something many people are self-conscious about, even men, so you don’t want to crush him.

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Be kind. Avoid harsh criticisms with a breezy, flirty response that tells him he has more to learn…from you.


  • “You need to keep kissing me until you get it right! ;)”
  • “I think we need to practice kissing more. Good thing you’ve got me for a teacher. ;)”

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And For When You Need A Little More Help….

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Still uncertain? There’s more resources out there to help you craft that perfect message that will leave him deeply longing for you.

Our go-to resource is the Text Chemistry course you can find here. It gives you all the tools you need to get in a guy’s head, even if you have little or no experience.

What if you’ve gone beyond that first kiss and hooked up with him? Click here for our guide on what to say to him after a hookup.