8 Reasons Why Guys Act like Nothing Happened After a Fight

One of my coaching clients asked me, “why do guys act like nothing happened after a fight?” Is he avoiding the issue? Is it because he does not care? It can be very confusing.

Here you will learn the top reasons why he acts like nothing happened after a fight.

Why Do Guys Act like Nothing Happened after a Fight

Guys act like nothing happened after a fight because he cares about you more than being right and doesn’t want to make things worse. He may be processing things, he might not know what to do, maybe he’s too busy to deal with it, possibly he’s waiting to see your reaction, or perhaps you are not that important to him.

1. He Cares About You More Than Being Right

Your guy may be acting like nothing happened after a fight because he is considering what he really wants. Sometimes just letting it go and acting like nothing happened is the best way to handle things. It isn’t worth winning a battle and losing the war.

Avoiding conflict might be the right option, especially if the fight is over something trivial. If the fight is over a bigger issue, something of importance that may come up again, it is necessary to discuss and resolve the issues.

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2. He’s Processing

When a guy is still processing the fight, and considering what to do, he may act like nothing happened while he sorts out his feelings. I have found that in most successful long term relationships, it is best to never speak while you are mad.

Take a little time to cool down and address the issues when all parties are calm. This is the key to healthy communication.

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3. He Doesn’t Know What to Do

Some guys are not good with confrontation. Perhaps this is the way it was for him growing up. Resolving fights may have been handled by ignoring the issues and acting like nothing ever happened.

He might be doing exactly what he has always done, nothing! It is best to openly communicate and discuss all issues, especially the right way to resolve fights.

4. He Doesn’t Have the Time

He may be acting like nothing happened because he is extremely busy with other commitments. Perhaps he has a deadline at work, a friend in need, or some family issues he is dealing with.

He might not have the time or energy to deal with the issues of the fight you had. Whatever the case may be, he is avoiding any sort of confrontation because he does not have the time.

5. It’s Not a Big Deal to Him

He may be acting like nothing happened because fighting and having arguments with people is normal to him. It may not be a big deal. Or perhaps what you fought about was not a big deal. Some guys are better than others at being unaffected and ignoring issues.

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6. He Doesn’t Want to Make It Worse

Some guys act like nothing happened after a fight simply because they don’t want to exacerbate the situation. Maybe he feels bad about what happened, or things he said, and wants to drop it altogether.

Perhaps he is scared of what may take place if the fighting continues. Whatever it is, he wants things to return to normal as quickly as possible and therefore pretends like nothing ever happened.

7. You’re Not That Important

He may act like nothing has happened because he doesn’t think you are worth it. He probably does not want to waste his time and energy fighting with someone he does not really care about or see a future with.

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8. He’s Waiting for Your Reaction

He could be acting like nothing happened because he is waiting to see how you react. He might base the way he acts on what you say. So if you start fighting, he will fight back. If you drop the issue, maybe he will too. If you don’t see it as a big deal, neither will he.

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How He Acts after a Fight

Your boyfriend may act differently after a fight because he doesn’t know what to do and doesn’t want to make the situation worse. He might be waiting to see how you act, possibly he’s busy with other commitments, he could still be processing his feelings, or perhaps he is completely fed up with the relationship.

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More Info: Psychology Today

Conclusion

Guys might act like nothing happened after a fight for various reasons. Some may do it to avoid further conflict or confrontation, while others might prefer their partner’s happiness rather than being “right.”

Some guys act like nothing happened because they don’t want to address the underlying issues and simply prefer to move on. Other guys may still be processing the fight, are unsure of how to react, or might not be ready to discuss it yet.

It’s important to communicate openly and honestly with your guy to understand his perspective and find a resolution. Make sure to maintain mutual respect at all times.

Matt Furman
Matt Furman

Hi, I’m Matt, the proud owner of Connection Copilot. I live in NYC and I’m passionate about all things dating. With a bachelor's degree in psychology, a professional coaching certification, and over 20 years of experience as a top tier dating coach, I've had the privilege of guiding and empowering thousands of individuals on their journey to meaningful connections.

I was born in New York and have never left. Having immersed myself in the fast-paced dating scene of New York City, learning as I go, I have gained much wisdom through experience. Consider me your trusted companion in your quest for love.