How to Tell a Girl You Like Her – The Best Way

How to tell a girl you like her can be very nerve-racking. You don’t want to screw up a potentially romantic situation.

Your whole interaction must be “man to woman,” and you have to step out of your comfort zone.

You cannot be shy or unsure of yourself. You are a man, and liking a girl you connect with is perfectly natural and normal.

There are some specific behaviors that make it clear that you like her. Let your actions speak for themselves. Here are the exact behaviors you need to follow.

How to Tell a Girl You Like Her

1. Be a Man

Growing up we were taught that it was bad to like a girl. Kids would make fun of you for liking someone. I remember denying liking a girl in high school.

This whole mindset is completely wrong. You are a man, it is normal and natural to like girls. Be proud and hold your head up high, whether or not she likes you back.

A girl should know immediately that you have a romantic interest in her. It should never be something that you spring on her at some pivotal moment.

Women are very smart and socially savvy. They know when a guy likes them. Instead of hiding your interest, you should be honest and open about it.

Liking girls you connect with is normal and natural and you should be unapologetic for being a man.

I would prefer to get rejected rather than reject myself. I would rather let a girl know I like her and then she can decide if she likes me back.

If you play it safe and never let a girl know you like her, you will never give yourself a chance. Girls are not stupid. They know when guys like them.

The sure thing boat never gets far from the shore.

If a guy does not man up, and make it happen, it is a turnoff. Primitively, it shows you are a weak man. Girls like strong men. She will instantly friend zone you.

2. Flirt Often

You must flirt! Your interaction with a girl has to be different than your interaction with your neighbor. The key is to be light-hearted and fun.

If you find your conversation is going nowhere say something like, “so, what do you do with your ex-boyfriends, chop ’em up and put them in the freezer?” Say this in a serious way, and then smile. Pause and let her talk. She will open up.

This is a very flirty and fun line to say. It hints at sexuality because you mention ex-boyfriends, yet it isn’t overboard. Your flirting must include some sort of sexuality to show a girl you like her.

Another thing to say is, “have you always been hot, or were you super nerdy in high school and then turned hot?” This line has good sexual undertones in it, and also shows your confidence.

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3. Tease and Joke 

Teasing and joking is an important part of any relationship, especially in the beginning. Don’t be too serious, just have a good time. Make sure there is a lot of laughing. Always remember the song, “Girls Just Want To Have Fun,” by Cyndi Lauper.

4. Lead The Interaction

You are the man. Always assume she likes you. Lead the interaction forward and make things happen.

If she doesn’t she will not follow your lead, she is either onboard or not. The biggest indicator that a girl likes you is SHE IS STILL THERE.

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5. Take Her Out

Taking a girl out is enough to let her know you like her. If you didn’t like her, why would you want to spend time with her? It works the same for a girl. She spends time with guys she wants to spend time with.

When you first hang out it is your big opportunity to be fun and flirty so the girl has a good time. If she is bored or doesn’t have fun, you are out. Make sure you joke around, tease, and you are able to laugh at yourself.

6. Make Sexual Comments

Make sure to lightly sprinkle in sexual comments. You don’t want to be inappropriate, yet you want to joke around and create some sexual tension. You must create a sexual component to the relationship.

The conversation should be fun and light, nothing serious. At some point look at her and say, “I’m sorry, I just completely missed what you were saying, I was too busy objectifying you.” Then act normal.

Or, at some point, spontaneously make a comment or ask a question.

“What is your stance on grabbing a drink and then rolling around naked in my bed?”

“I had a dream last night, you were catwoman, I was batman. I had you on a leash.”

At this point you have been clear about your intent and put yourself out there. Either she is interested or not. By saying a comment like that you put her on the spot and force her to decide.

It is good to know how she feels so you can either move forward with her or stop wasting time and find a girl who wants to be with you.

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7. Get Physical

You must get physical with the girl. That is your job, as a man. It is a progression. Start with a hug when you first see her. At one point maybe do a high five. When there is something she says that you really like, hug her.

Your actions will show you like her. A girl who likes you will be onboard your train. A girl who doesn’t like you will let you know. Either way, you get your answer and don’t have to worry about telling her you like her.

At some point, you have to kiss her. You will feel when the moment is right. Usually comes with laughing and flirting. If you miss this opportunity you could lose your chance with this girl.

The kiss has to happen before you say goodbye. It should not be some awkward moment you spring upon her at the end of the night. It should be at a point where you are connecting and enjoying each other’s company.

8. Give Space

After taking a girl out and showing her an amazing time, leave some space. Wait for her to call or text you. Even if two days go by, chill. Don’t be pushy, or needy, or overwhelming.

Women are very independent and have to decide on their own if they like you. Show her a great time, then give some space, that is the secret ingredient. Let her decide naturally.

9. Have Confidence

Confidence is the single most attractive quality a guy can possess. Guys are drawn to beauty, girls are drawn to confidence. Confidence shows a girl that you have been accepted by other women before.

It shows a girl that interacting with females is normal for you. It shows you are a true man and have been socially accepted.

If you have no confidence and you are scared to let beautiful women know you like them, how can you expect girls to like you back? You must first accept yourself before girls will accept you.

Always assume a girl likes you. She will let you know if she doesn’t.

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10. Minimize Compliments

Compliments are good, sometimes. When I meet up with a girl, and she is dressed nicely and smells great, I tell her. “You look and smell amazing.” If we are in conversation, and she says something funny, I might say, “wow, you have a great sense of humor.”

Compliments should be genuine and real, not superficial. If you tell a girl how hot she is and how beautiful she is, over and over, she will get turned off.

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How to Tell a Girl You Like Her Without Making It Awkward

The best way to tell a girl you like her without making it awkward is to be confident, be open and honest about your feelings, flirt with her, tease and joke around, lead the interaction forward, take her out, make sexual comments, get physical, and give space between interactions.

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When considering how to tell a girl that you like her, I recommend just being honest. Your true feelings will shine through and girls like seeing that. Work on all the steps above and in no time telling girls you like them will be easy.

Matt Furman
Matt Furman

Hi, I’m Matt, the proud owner of Connection Copilot. I live in NYC and I’m passionate about all things dating. With a bachelor's degree in psychology, a professional coaching certification, and over 20 years of experience as a top tier dating coach, I've had the privilege of guiding and empowering thousands of individuals on their journey to meaningful connections.

I was born in New York and have never left. Having immersed myself in the fast-paced dating scene of New York City, learning as I go, I have gained much wisdom through experience. Consider me your trusted companion in your quest for love.