When a Guy Wants to Come Over to Your House – 10 Meanings

There comes a time in every relationship (well, the healthy ones anyway) when a guy wants to come over your house. What does it actually mean when he’s ready to come over?

Here you will learn all the meanings behind a guy wanting to come over your house.

What Does it Mean When a Guy Wants to Come Over Your House?

When a guy asks to come over to your house, it may be for various reasons. Most of the time it will be for hooking up and spending more time with you.

Come Over Meaning – Tip

Here are 10 possible meanings when a guy wants to come over to your house. Use your gut to know which is the correct come over meaning.

1. He Wants to Knock Boots (What Does Knocking Boots Mean)

Usually it doesn’t take a brain surgeon to figure out why a guy wants to come over to your house. He probably doesn’t want to watch a movie. Most of the time he wants to knock boots (aka – hook up, bump uglies, do the nasty, make the two-backed beast).

2. He Wants to Get Out of the Friend Zone

When a guy believes he may be in the friend zone, and he wants to get out of it, don’t be surprised when he starts hinting around or outright invites himself to come over to your house.

The logic in his head is that once he gets you alone, somewhere you’re comfortable (like your own home), he can bond with you, or possibly just try to get your panties off.

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3. He’s Ready to Get Exclusive With You

When a guy is ready to get exclusive with you and stop dating anyone else, he’s likely to want to come over to your house. Why? He wants to spend more time with you. He wants to see what you look like at home, including how you spend your time and how you interact with your family and friends. He may also want to test your bed out.

4. He Wants to Become Familiar

One of the biggest reasons for a guy wanting to come over to your house is to meet your friends and family, the people you hang out with. He most likely just wants to be around you more.

5. He Wants to Be Part of Your Life

Sometimes guys think the best way to be a part of your life is to constantly be around, including at your home. It may not be every day or even every weekend, but give him an inch and he’ll take a mile before it’s all said and done. One day he’s tagging along for Starbucks, the next he’s part of your friend group and still there at the end of the night.

6. He Wants to Get to Know You Better

Some guys just want to get to know you better when they ask if they can come and hang out at your house. Of course, if hooking up is involved, that’s just a bonus. However, there are plenty of guys, especially at the beginning of a relationship, that just honestly want to get to know who you are. The best way to do so, in their minds, is by observing you in your natural habitat.

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7. He Wants to Chill With You

The term chill and Netflix exists for a reason: some guys want to come over to your place and chill with you. That said, it’s hard telling the difference between a legit guy wanting to chill who wants to get to know you better, and one who’s only desire is to get into your pants.

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8. He Wants to Become A Steady Part of Your Life

Guys who like you want to become part of your life. This can be good or bad, depending on how you feel about him. If he’s asking to come over to your house, there is a chance he’s trying to normalize his presence in your life. Having him over your house is kind of personal, make sure you are ready.

9. He Wants to Meet Your Family and Friends

If a guy wants to get to know you better, and possibly win some brownie points (or steal your heart) along the way, meeting the closest people in your life is a good tactic. When he knows you have social plans and still wants to come over your house, you know what he is thinking.

10. He is Lonely

Guys don’t really like to be alone. If he has fun being with you, and finds you “hot,” he would rather be with you than be alone. This is fine if you like him, otherwise don’t lead him on.

How to Respond When a Guy Wants to Come Over to Your House

When guys want to come over to your place, depending on how you feel about him, there are numerous methods for dealing with it. The five main ways to respond include:

1. Inviting Him Over (Can I Come Over)

If you like the idea of him coming over, whether it’s for Netflix and chill or clearly for hooking up, go ahead and invite him over immediately. Let him know you’re looking forward to it as well. Ask him to bring something along if you have something on your mind (drink, food… condoms).

“Sounds great, see you tonight. Bring a bottle of wine, I have the dessert ;)”

2. Politely Declining

When a guy wants to come over to your house and you’re just not feeling it, at all, politely decline him on the spot. The longer you wait to tell him no, the harder it gets.

“No thank you.”

3. Asking for a Raincheck

If a guy wants to come over to your place and you are either busy or just not quite sure how you feel, yet you don’t want to say no, ask him for a raincheck. You can either agree on another date or tell him you’ll let him know.

“Today is not good, let’s do it another time.”

4. Giving Him a Hard “No”

When a guy wants to come over to your house, and you have no interest whatsoever, you need to give him a hard no right then and there. If not he will keep asking. Don’t feel bad, you are probably not the only girl he is talking to.

“Listen, I am just not interested.”

5. Explaining Why It’s Not a Good Idea

Last but not least, when a guy wants to come over to your house, and you aren’t sure about it, you can see how he reacts. Explain why it’s not a good idea and see what he says.

If he gets reactive, do not have him over. If he is sweet and understanding, perhaps it might be fun 😈

“Believe it or not, most guys will respect you even more for handling things in such an open and honest manner.

“I’m not sure if it is a good idea, we hardly know each other.”

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Signs a Guy Wants to Come Over to Your Place

There are several clear indicators that he wants to come over. You may have already spotted some.

He Gives You All of His Attention

When a guy constantly wants to hang out with you and seems to never leave before you, it is clear he would like to continue the party at your place. When in a group he will generally hang out with you the whole time.

He Constantly Asks About Your Plans

Guys that are constantly asking about your plans may be trying to insert themselves into your life. If he’s always asking what you’re doing tonight, he may really want to know if he can come over or not.

“Hey, what are you up to later?”

He Wants to Be Exclusive With You

When a guy always seems to be available to get together, perhaps you are the only girl he is interested in. We all make time for who we want to make time for. He seems to want to be with you.

“When are you available? I’m around all week.”

He Makes You Feel Special

If a guy makes you feel special all of the time, he probably really cares about you (or at least has a major crush/sexual attraction towards you). In this case, it’s a no-brainer that he wants to cover over to your house. All you need to do is ask him, or wait long enough and he’ll likely ask you himself.

He Does Anything You Ask Him

When a guy does anything you ask he definitely wants to come over to your place. You need to determine if he is being genuine or if he just wants to get into your pants.

His Friends and Family Accept You

When a guy’s social circle likes you, he will be more into you. Guys like to show off their girl. The more he likes you, the more he will want to come over your place.

Frequently Asked Questions

How Long Does it Take a Guy to Know He Wants to Date You?

From my experience I believe a guy knows right away. The more important question is “do you want to date him?”

How Fast Should a Guy Want to Come Over to Your House After Meeting You?

Guys know immediately. They will want to come over your house as soon as possible, if you let them. Make sure you are clear on any guys intentions, and ok with it, before inviting him over.

Beware of the “Come Over Guy,” who only has one thing on his mind. To read more check out this article by the Chicago Tribune.

Conclusion

You will definitely be faced with the situation of a guy wanting to come over to your house. This article will definitely put you “in the know.” Good luck!