How to Make Him Scared of Losing You Through Text – 11 Ways

When I was with my ex, I had to learn how to make him scared of losing me. It was frustrating to be taken for granted.

I figured out the perfect way to make him worry, and I believe it can help others in the same position. I’ve compiled a list of 10 effective ways to make him scared of losing you through text and in person.

How to Make Him Scared of Losing You Through Text

1. Don’t Answer His Questions

When a guy asks a question, you don’t need to answer it. This will make him more curious, and you will be on his mind. Doing this will get you more of an investment from him.

For example, if he asks you how your day is going, or if you had fun last night, just ignore or change the subject. 

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2. Be Unavailable

When you are always available a guy may not appreciate you. So, do the opposite, and be busy most of the time. Don’t answer his calls, don’t say yes when he asks to FaceTime, don’t commit to plans, and don’t be around when he has free time.

3. Talk About Fun With Friends

Casually mention plans you had with other friends, and go on and on about how amazing it was. This will make him realize you have a life outside of him, and he will wish he was part of the fun too.

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4. Take Long to Respond

When he texts don’t text back immediately. Wait a few hours, or a few days, depending on how you usually respond. Make it clear that he is no longer your priority.

5. Be Less Interested

Stop asking him about his day and about his life. When he tells you something that he did, just say a few words, instead of asking all about it. For example, if he tells you he got together with his best friend, say, “that’s cool.”

He will see your lack of interest, and want to invest more.

6. Talk About a Guy Friend

The best way to get a guy to fear losing you is to talk about other guys. Talk about your guy friend and how amazing he is. Mention that you hung out and had the best time. 

If you don’t have any guy friends, mention the cashier at Starbucks, or the teller at the bank. Talk up another guy, even if it isn’t true. This will cause your guy to get jealous, which will lead to him wanting you more.

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7. Cancel Plans

Nobody likes to be canceled on. When you cancel plans it will upset your guy, and also make him curious as to why you are canceling. 

He will realize that he is not the most important thing in your life. Canceling plans is not a nice thing to do to someone. These texts will make him realize he’s losing you.

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8. Mention a New Hobby

Mention something new you have gotten into that does not involve him. Talk about how much you enjoy it and how great it is. This should get him jealous and make him feel replaced.

9. Don’t Always Be Agreeable

Don’t always say yes to everything he suggests. If you have plans and he wants the two of you to go out with his friends, tell him you are not in the mood and would prefer a chill night with him. 

If he wants to go to a specific restaurant or bar you always go to, tell him you want to try some place new. If he suggests going to a concert together, tell him you don’t like the artist. 

10. Mention Taking a Break

Mention that you were thinking the two of you should take a break. Don’t stress it or make a big deal, just casually mention it. Wait to see how he reacts. 

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11.Tell Him There’s Something You Need to Discuss

Text him that you need to talk to him, and then don’t text again for a while. This will make him very curious and worried. Many things will go through his mind, and he will probably try to get in contact with you.

When you do talk to him, just say it was nothing, or that you just wanted to say hi. Doing this will stir up his emotions.

Quotes to Make Him Realize He’s Losing You

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Texts That Will Make Him Fear Losing You

  • Sorry I didn’t answer you sooner, I’ve been busy.
  • I can’t see you this weekend. I’ve got plans already.
  • I have to cancel our date tomorrow, something came up.
  • I’m not in the mood to hang out tonight. I need some me time.
  • Can’t stop laughing, my coworker is hysterical, he always cracks me up.
  • Hey, we need to talk. Let me know when you have a minute.
  • I can’t talk right now. I’m in the middle of something.
  • Last night was epic, my friends and I were out till 2am.
  • I’ve been learning to cook, my friend Joe got me into it.
  • Instead of that bar you love, let’s go to a new spot.

How to Make Him Fear Losing You

The best way to make a guy fear losing you is to be unavailable, avoid answering his questions, talk about the great time you had with friends, take a long time to respond to him, be less interested, talk about a guy friend, cancel plans, mention a new hobby, don’t always be agreeable, mention taking a relationship break, and tell him there is something you need to discuss.

More Info: Psychology Today

How to Make Him Worry About Losing You

1. Make Yourself Less Available

2. Mention a Great Time You Had When You Weren’t Together

3. Don’t Give Him Too Much Attention

4. Talk About Other Guys

5. Cancel on Him

6. Talk About Other Interests That Don’t Involve Him

7. Don’t Always Do What He Wants

8. Suggest Taking a Break

9. Tell Him There’s Something On Your Mind

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By implementing these strategies, you can make him scared of losing you through text.  

While these tactics can help him understand your worth, they should not replace open and honest communication.

Your ultimate goal is not to make him worry about you over text, it is to empower yourself and encourage a healthier relationship.

If your guy truly appreciates and values you, he will be get the hint and strive to meet your needs.

If you find yourself constantly resorting to these tactics, or feeling undervalued despite your efforts, it may be time to re-evaluate the relationship. You deserve a guy who wholeheartedly wants to be with you. 

Choose a guy who makes you feel secure, loved, and respected, not someone you need to manipulate. You should not have to worry your boyfriend over text.

Take charge of your happiness and build a relationship based on mutual respect, open communication, and genuine appreciation. You deserve nothing less!

Farzana Tajnin
Farzana Tajnin

Hi, I’m Zana, the proud co-owner of this amazing website. I live in NYC, studied relationship psychology at NYU, and got my dating and relationship coaching certification at MI.

I live, breath, and sleep relationship advice, and I’m always learning. Think of me as a dependable friend on your journey to find love.