Love can make you do crazy things, especially in the early stages before your relationship has had time to grow a steady framework. You find yourself closely interpreting every message they sent you, anxiously waiting to see them again, calculating your every move, and doing whatever you can to hook your man in.
So when he seems distant or unappreciative of all that effort, you’ll want to do what you can to make him worry about losing you. Maybe if he realizes how good he has it with you, he’ll do whatever he can to keep you, right?
You can use text messages strategically to achieve your goal. If you’re not sure what to say, we’ve written fifteen texts to make him worry about losing you.
How to Make Him Worry About Losing You Without Giving Yourself Away
If you’re trying to get him to appreciate what he has with you by making him worry you’re losing interest, you’re playing a tricky game. It requires a degree of balance; you can’t be obvious about what you’re doing, but you don’t want to be manipulative, either, otherwise you risk pushing him away.
With that in mind, there are some things you should implement in your texting strategy to prevent him from walking away. Let’s go over them now.
First, don’t answer him right away. If you text him back the very same second he messaged you, you’re telling him that you’re at his beck and call.
Remember, your objective here is to make him stop taking you for granted. Part of that is making him realize you have a life outside of him.
Second, it’s always better to take the high ground. It might feel nice for a bit to make him jealous by pretending to be interested in another guy, or by flirting with someone else in front of him, but that’s beneath you.
You’ll feel better in the end when you’ve been a mature, confident woman. You’re the one who has to live with yourself for the rest of your life, so make sure you make yourself into someone you enjoy being around first and foremost.
Third, don’t lose your cool. Don’t give into the temptation of literally begging him to open up or be with you.
If you lay yourself down like a doormat for him constantly, he’ll know that he can walk all over you. He’ll simply continue taking you for granted. It’s important to have emotional discussions about what we’re feeling, but you need to do so calmly and with poise.
Finally, consider reading up on what men want and need. We personally love the Devotion System for that because it was a course created by a real relationship expert.
Further Reading: What to Text a Guy to Get Him to Respond
Texts to Make Him Worry About Losing You
Now, let’s get to the text templates you’re here for. Each of them uses a different strategy, whether it’s to show him you have a life outside of him or whether it’s to make him a bit jealous.
You may need to modify each text slightly to be more specific to him. After each one, we’ll also tell you which situations it’s for and if we recommend it.
- “Sorry I didn’t answer you sooner. I was busy.”
Great For: When you want to show him you don’t need him. Being busy means you have a life outside of him and that you’re independent.
- “I can’t see you this weekend. I’ve got plans already.”
Great For: When he’s asked you to hang out and you need to demonstrate you’re capable of having fun on your own.
- “I’m going to have cancel our date tomorrow. Something came up.”
Great For: When you need to show him that you’re in high demand. It will make him worry about what could cause your plans to be interrupted. If he’s the one cancelling your plans, read out guide about what to text a guy who keeps blowing you off.
- “You know, I had an idea for something else we could try in bed the next time we see each other…”
Great For: When you’re looking for a way to get him eager to see you again. You can combine this with other texts by telling him you’re busy for awhile when he desperately tries to make plans with you.
- “I bought this sexy new outfit. I was planning on trying it on while I hang out with some friends later.”
Great For: When you want him to think about how other guys might look at you. Keep in mind that this is a slightly more manipulative text.
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- Send him a fun selfie you took with friends. Bonus points if you’re wearing an enticing ensemble.
Great For: When you’re searching for a quick, easy way to show him that you can have fun with or without him. Be sure to also look at our post on what to text your ex-boyfriend to make him jealous.
- “Ugh, there’s this guy at work who won’t stop flirting with me.”
Great For: When you want to casually let him know that other men are interested in you. This is also manipulative at times, so we don’t recommend using texts like this one often.
- “Hey, we need to talk. I feel as if you’ve been taking me for granted lately.”
Great For: When you’re ready to have an honest conversation about what you’re feeling. This is a direct approach to take when you know he’s open to discussion.
- “I’m not in the mood to hang out tonight. I need some me time.”
Great For: When you need to cancel a plan at the last minute or turn down his attempts to hang out. It will make him wonder what you’re thinking about.
- “Hey, I’ve got a surprise for you. I’ll give it to you on our next date!”
Great For: When you’re looking for a way to get him excited to see you again. Everyone likes presents, and this will get him eager to see what you’ve found for him.
- “If you need some space, that’s okay. But don’t expect me to wait around while you’re taking your space, either.”
Great For: When you want to let him know that you can survive with or without him. The ending may sound harsh, but it’s a good reminder that you’re an independent woman who knows her worth.
- Send him a sexy selfie.
Great For: When you want to give him a clear reminder of what he would be missing if he weren’t with you. It may also leave him desperate to make plans to see you again.
- “I bought tickets to that movie you wanted to see. Want to go with me this weekend?”
Great For: When you’re searching for a way to motivate him to come on another date. This could be an excellent way to cheer him up, too, if you know he’s been feeling down in the dumps recently.
- “Is everything okay? I feel like you’ve been distant lately.”
Great For: When you’re comfortable with opening a deeper dialogue between you. Don’t ask questions like this too often, though, or he’ll feel like he’s being interrogated by you.
- “I can’t talk right now. I’m busy.”
Great For: When you want to make him curious about what you’re doing.
Use Proven Methods to Ensure He Never Want to Lose You
Making him want to do everything he can to keep you is something that takes time and effort. You need to work together to build a relationship that he can’t live without.
Part of that is understanding how a man’s mind works. One of the best resources we’ve found for that is the Devotion System by relationship coach Amy North. The course is designed to teach you everything you need to know to get him hooked on you.
You can also check out our post about how to show a guy you like him over text.