Making out with a guy can be a ton of fun.
It tells you a lot about him and your chemistry. You’ll know if he’s a bad kisser, or you’ll feel fireworks if the chemistry is good between you two.
He’ll learn the same things from you while you make out.
But just because the makeout session is over, doesn’t mean your job is done yet. Communicating with him afterward is half the battle.
Wondering what you should text him after making out with him? Scroll down and we’ll lay out your best options.
Think About the Circumstances of the Makeout Session.
Don’t even think of texting him until you’ve thought about how you’re feeling and what the makeout was like.
The way you’ll talk to him will depend largely on what you’re feeling, where you want to go with him, and the circumstances surrounding the makeout.
Let’s look at these factors to help you with your strategy.
Were you on a date with him?
If you were on a date with him, the circumstances are quite different from if you’d just met him.
There was already a romantic understanding between you. The fact that the date resulted in making out with him is a good sign that there’s an abundance of sparks between you two.
You can safely use flirty and romantic dialogue here. Alternatively, you can take the first step post-makeout and ask him for another date if that’s what you want.
Were you just hooking up with him?
Perhaps you weren’t on a date. You could have been at a party he was at or he might have been a friend you were curious about…and things just happened.
There isn’t necessarily the same romantic understanding here as there would be if you were on a date when it happened. Since this type of situation is much more casual, you’ll need to think about what you want.
Want to keep hooking up? You can communicate your desires with sexy and spicy texts to get your point across.
Looking to turn it into a steady relationship? It will take a little more thought and caution on your part, but as long as you don’t overwhelm him, it’s definitely possible.
Was it the first time you met him?
So what if he was a guy you met the same night you made out with him? You could have met him at a bar, a concert, or any other number of places.
First of all: if you got his number to text him so soon after meeting him, you must have really left an impression on him. No matter how nervous or self-conscious you may be feeling, don’t forget that.
Like with hooking up, you’ll need to think about what you want. If you feel it could be the start of a worthy romance, then you’ll want to stay out of conversations that are too sexual until you’ve built a stronger connection to avoid giving him the wrong impression.
On the other hand, if you want to keep it physical, don’t be shy. Use sensual descriptions and selfies to get him hot for you.
What to Text a Guy After Making Out
Check on him.
This is one of the best choices out there for when you’re interested in him, but you have no idea what he’s feeling. Sending him a basic question doesn’t force you to tip your hand to him and buys you time to figure out what he’s thinking.
Plus, since you’re asking a question, you’re automatically upping the odds that he’ll answer you. You’re also avoiding the pitfalls of seeming desperate and clingy.
- “Hey, how are you doing?”
- “What are you up to today?”
- “How is your day going so far?”
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Send him some hints.
Did you like what happened between you two and want it to happen again? If that’s the case and you’re not sure how he feels, send him some obvious hints.
Playing coy with him like this will get in his head and make him wonder how to get in yours. Don’t directly acknowledge the fact that you made out, but indicate you had a good time.
This strategy is great for when you’re just in need of something a little less serious. It sends the signal that you’re not necessarily searching for a commitment…but you’re craving him.
- “Hey, I had a lot of fun with you last night. :)”
- “I loved spending time with you the other day.”
Want it to happen again, and you’re feeling confident about it? Ask him for part two.
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You know what they say: fortune favors the bold.
So use a bolder strategy if you’re pretty confident you impressed him with your skills and you’re sure he wants another round. There’s no need to play coy here.
If anything, he’ll be blown away by how confident you are. Too often, we’re told that we have to play games when it comes to romance and sex, and while that can be fun, sometimes getting straight to the point can be even more fun.
- “I loved making out with you last night. What do you think about a repeat performance? ;)”
- “We should get together and do that again…”
- “I haven’t even shown you my best moves. Want me to demonstrate for you sometime?”
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Tell him he did something well.
Everybody likes a sincere compliment.
Imagine how good you’ll make him feel when you tell him one thing you loved about making out with him. Our “physical” skills are typically things we’re pretty self-conscious about, after all.
This approach flatters him. He won’t be able to help but sit up straighter and puff out his chest a little when you let him know how much you appreciated him…
…and how much you want to do it again.
- “I can’t get over how warm your lips were…”
- “I haven’t been able to stop thinking how good you are at using your tongue. Maybe you could show me more?”
Go along for the ride.
This is the best strategy if he’s actually the one who texted you first after the makeout.
We’ll start by saying that’s an excellent sign. It means you’re obviously on his mind, and he didn’t want to let you get away.
Watch what he says to you and look at the tone of his messages. You’ll be able to see what kind of mood he seems to be in and follow along.
Ask him conversational questions about what he says to you and mirror his mood a little.
It’s like getting to look at the answers for a test. With his hints, this is a test we’re confident you’ll be able to ace.
What do you do if all he says to you is “hey?” We’ve got your back in this guide about what to text a guy back when he says hey.
Send him a corny joke.
Nothing breaks the ice better than a lame joke that everyone involved can grin and roll their eyes at.
Use one to demonstrate your dazzling sense of humor to him. It will help him relax and feel comfortable around you.
On top of that, using jokes, memes, or gifs shows him you’re an easygoing person. You’ll stand out from the crowd in a time where too many people look exactly the same.
- A funny gif of a couple kissing followed by a joke like, “Is this what we looked like last night?”
- The cheesiest pickup line you can think of or find online.
Ask him on a date!
Yeah, you heard us right.
If you got signals from him that he’s really interested in you, you’ve already been on a date or two, or you can’t get him out of your mind, then go for it.
You’ve heard people say that the worst thing you’ll hear is no, and it’s true. At best, he’ll fall in love with your brilliant confidence here.
And if you’re feeling a little self-conscious about it, keep it light and fun when you ask. It will show him that you can take the initiative when you need to without seeming too intense.
- “Hey, I was wondering if you’d like to go with me to the concert next weekend?”
- “How does you, me, and dinner at the new burger place Friday night sound?”
- “I’ve got the Netflix and the couch, if you’re willing to bring the popcorn and some cuddles. :)”
Not interested in him? Let him know to save yourselves some time.
You can learn a lot from your first makeout with a guy. One thing you might have learned is that you lack any sort of chemistry, and you don’t want it to happen again or go any further.
It’s okay to feel that way. You can’t guarantee that every guy you meet will be the one for you.
But if you are feeling like the relationship won’t go anywhere, let him know. Demonstrating such honesty will not only make you feel better, but you’ll come off as a mature and independent woman.
This is the best route to go if the makeout session kind of just happened without you planning it or it happened with a guy friend of yours that you just want to stay friends with. It will keep you both from thinking that something is going to come from it, and it won’t get his hopes up unnecessarily.
- “It was great seeing you the other night, but I just wanted to let you know I don’t think we should take it any further.”
- “While I had fun with you last night, I don’t think I’m feeling the spark. I’d love to keep hanging out with you, but only as friends, if you’re all right with that.”
Don’t text him anything.
This might be the better choice if you don’t want to see him again or if you’re really unsure.
You could avoid texting him first to see if he’ll reach out to you himself. The issue is, if you’re into him, this could put you at risk of him assuming you don’t want to talk to him.
Alternatively, if you’re not interested, this might get your message across loud and clear without the awkwardness of having to explain it to him.
Keep in mind that, either way, it could potentially look like you’re ghosting him and could come across as rude.
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If you’re still feeling unsure how to win him over after reading this guide, take a look at the Text Chemistry program by Amy North. It’s packed full of advice and texts you can use to make a man absolutely crazy for you.