Nobody is perfect. This is true even for our romantic relationships, where we try to be the best we can be for someone else’s sake.
The thing is, when you’re in love, you’re vulnerable. Sometimes, that means you make mistakes. Like writing out an apology letter, sending him a text can help you take the first steps towards correcting whatever mistake you made.
Writing the perfect apology text is so hard, though. To help you get started on earning his forgiveness, we’ve written you texts to make him forgive you.
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How to Get His Forgiveness by Text
If patching things up were as easy as sending him a single text message, no one would ever be angry with each other. Although the texts we wrote will help you open a dialogue, there are a few behaviors and things you should keep in mind to truly win him over again.
We’ll be covering a few basic rules for your apology to ensure that it’s effective. Let’s take a closer look at them…
The single most important aspect of your apology is sincerity. Don’t send him an apology if you don’t legitimately feel bad for your actions. If he knows you at all, he’ll be able to see right through you.
This may seem like a no-brainer, but sometimes, it’s hard to feel bad for something you did, especially if you’re not entirely sure why he’s upset about it or what you did wrong to begin with. If there’s any uncertainty about what you did to upset him, apologize to him for your confusion on the matter and ask him to clarify things from his side of the story.
On the other hand, if you know what upset him and don’t understand why it upset him so much, take time to put yourself in his shoes. Pretend for a moment that he did something similar to you. This will help give you the perspective you need to start formulating an honest apology.
Don’t apologize excessively.
Most of the time, one apology is enough. You don’t need to flood him with repeated pleas for forgiveness – in fact, the more you beg him for it, the less likely he’ll be to forgive you. That’s because repeated apologies lessen the weight of your sentiment and make you seem insincere.
If you’ve realized you did something wrong, great. You’ve taken the first steps by acknowledging your wrongdoing and feeling guilty for it. Your next step is sending him a single, well-written, thoughtful apology, then waiting for his response.
After your apology, the ball is in his court. Be patient and wait for him.
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Avoid apologizing for things that aren’t your fault.
Anxious people will do anything to assuage their insecurity and anxiety. This includes apologizing for things that aren’t even their fault.
If you’re the type of person to apologize for anything, including things totally out of your control like the weather and his behavior, we have one word for you: don’t. The only apologies you ever owe him are ones for actions you had control over.
We realize this can be a hard habit to stop, especially if you’re struggling with your own insecurity. However, it’s important you do stop it, because apologizing for everything will make your most crucial apologies less impactful.
So, before you make an apology, ask yourself one question: am I apologizing for something that I personally did wrong? In that case, proceed.
If not, change your wording a bit. Instead of apologizing and putting the onus on you, tell him you feel bad for whatever happened. For example, instead of apologizing that his favorite team lost, sympathize with him.
Tailor your apology to the wrong that you did.
Another common issue is over-apologizing for mistakes. While this does relate to apologizing excessively, which we discussed earlier, there are some differences.
Pretend you did something small. For instance, maybe you accidentally ordered him the wrong food for dinner. An apology is in order, sure, but you don’t need to get on your knees and plead for forgiveness.
Fun, casual apologies are best for small screw-ups. Save the lengthy, poetic, and emotional ones for when you’ve done something worse, like losing your temper on him.
Depending on the gravity of what you did, you may also want to avoid going into detail about it initially. If you cheated on him, for example, don’t reopen those wounds by describing it in your apology. Simply give him the sincerest apology you can and wait for his response.
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Accept that he doesn’t have to forgive you.
Here’s a painful truth you may not want to hear: he doesn’t have to forgive you. You are not entitled to his forgiveness. We know you don’t want to hear that, but it’s important to face it upfront so you can adjust your expectations accordingly.
If you’re having a hard time with this concept, reverse the roles in your head. Imagine he’s the one who hurt you, and he’s the one begging for your forgiveness. At that point, you have the power to choose whether to forgive him. And if you do choose to forgive him, you don’t necessarily have to pretend to forget his wrongdoing.
He may choose not to accept your apology initially based on how serious your mistake was. That’s his decision, so don’t try to manipulate him into changing his mind.
Should he decide he doesn’t forgive you yet, then give him his space. In time, as he thinks it over, he may reach a point where he finally feels ready to completely forgive you. He will feel grateful that you didn’t pressure him.
Of course, this applies more to larger mistakes. If you made a small mix-up like messing up his favorite dinner or mixing up the time for a date once, he should be much more inclined to accept your sincere apology. In those cases, if he doesn’t accept your apology and continues to hold it over your head, then you may want to ask yourself if this man really has your best interests at heart…or if he just enjoys having power over you.
Sending an apology text is just a piece of the puzzle. You need to develop a more comprehensive texting strategy, which we are more than happy to help you with in our guide to how to text a guy.
Texts to Make Him Forgive Me
We’ve written two types of forgiveness texts: texts for small mistakes and texts for larger mistakes. You’ll notice that the texts for small mistakes usually have a more upbeat tone to keep the situation light.
Texts for large mistakes, on the other hand, are more serious and emotional. This is because you need to put in a lot more emotional work to repair a large romantic issue than a small one.
If you don’t like any of the texts here, this isn’t the end of the line. You can find more texts and strategies in the Text Chemistry program, which was specifically written to make men fall in love through text message.
Apology texts for small mistakes…
- “Hey, I just wanted to acknowledge that I messed up. I take full responsibility for my actions, and I’m prepared to fix it.”
- “I know I screwed up. Mind if I make it up to you?”
- “I owe you a thousand apologies. Consider this the first one.”
- “Looking back on what I did, I feel like such an idiot. I should have listened to what you were saying. I swear I’ll do better for you going forward.”
- “You mean everything to me, and I want to prove it to you. Dinner is on me tonight.”
- “How about I skip the apology and get straight to the part where I make everything up to you?”
- “I know I made a mess of things the other day. If you come over tonight, I can make you forget all about it…”
- “Could I get you to forgive me with a thousand kisses?”
- “Please forgive me for pestering you so much. I understand you’re a competent man – that’s part of the reason I was attracted to you in the first place.”
- “Hey babe, I just wanted to let you know that I realize I made a huge mistake. To make up for it, I’ve got a surprise for you…”
- “Texts don’t make good apologies, but food does. Want to come over tonight and I’ll make you your favorite dinner?”
- “I’m sorry that I was a nightmare for you the other day. You’re the man of my dreams, and I want to make you feel like you’re living in a dream whenever you’re with me.”
- “I realize I screwed up, and I’m sorry. If you’ll hear me out, I have some interesting ideas for fixing my mistakes…”
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Forgiveness texts for large mistakes…
- “I said some really hurtful things last night, and I wanted to apologize to you. You don’t deserve the accusations I made.”
- “I’ve been thinking, and I feel awful after the fight we had last night. I’m sorry that I lashed out you – you didn’t deserve it.”
- “You’re an amazing guy, and I don’t want to lose you. Please forgive me for letting you down.”
- “I wanted to let you know that I’m grateful for everything you do for me. If I didn’t make that clear the other day, I’m so sorry.”
- “I’m ready to be better for you.”
- “I realize that I blew up unfairly on you last night. That doesn’t erase the things I said but know that I didn’t mean to hurt you and I’m willing to seek help so I can better control my words.”
- “Woke up this morning feeling terrible for what I did the other day. Is it okay if I call you soon so we can talk about it?”
- “Hey, I just wanted to drop by your inbox and acknowledge that I really messed up. When you’re ready, I’d love to see you so I can apologize to you in person.”
- “I’m asking you to forgive me for my actions, but I almost can’t forgive myself knowing I hurt you. I will never do so again.”
- “Our love is worth preserving and protecting. I know I made a mistake, but I don’t want to lose sight of everything we have built together.”
- “I really failed to be the partner you deserve the other day. If you’ll give me another chance, I’m ready to prove to you that I’m up to the task of making it up to you.”
- “Nobody is perfect, but that doesn’t excuse my mistake. I’m so sorry.”
- “My heart aches knowing I made you feel awful.”
- “I’m sorry that I messed up so badly. What could I do to show you that I’m committed to improving for you?”
- “I promise not to let anything get in the way of our relationship. I’m sorry if I ever made you feel like that wasn’t the case.”
- “I wish I could turn back time so I could stop myself from screwing up in the first place. Unfortunately, the most I can do is tell you how deeply sorry I am.”
- “I don’t ever want you to think I don’t trust you. Please forgive me for my moment of insecurity.”
- “I realize how self-centered I was the other day. I just wanted to apologize and let you know that you’re the center of my life.”
- “I shouldn’t have ever doubted you. I’m so sorry for not believing in you when you needed my support.”
- “Hey, I wanted to say I’m sorry for not respecting your space. You deserve privacy just as much as I do, and I want to trust you when we’re apart as much as when we’re together going forward.”
- “I care about you too much to lose your love. I won’t make the same mistake again.”
- “I broke my promise to you, and for that I’m deeply sorry. If you’re willing to let me, I’d love to show you how much I love you.”
Develop Strong Texting Skills to Avoid Relationship Pitfalls
You’re human, and mistakes are going to happen once in awhile despite your best efforts. No matter how much you love the guy, you’re going to occasionally mess things up.
When it happens, take a deep breath. Remember that humans aren’t perfect. All you need to do now is work past your errors.
One way to get past those mistakes is to learn what men like to hear most. Our favorite resource to turn to for information on how men think and what they want to see is this course called Text Chemistry. Created by a seasoned relationship coach named Amy North, it’s filled with text templates for all types of situations.
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