Wondering how to ask a guy you like to a wedding? Then you’ve come to the right place. We’ve got 8 examples that will have you asking the question without being awkward:
1. Ask Him Directly
If you’ve been on a couple of dates before, this is probably the best approach. Men appreciate confident women that don’t get nervous or anxious when speaking their mind.
The script for this is pretty straight-forward:
“Hey, there’s a wedding coming up soon in my family and I was wondering if you would want to go with me?”
If you want to give him a bit of wiggle room, you can suggest that you meet for a night-cap drink after the wedding if he can’t make it.
If you’ve never been on a date before with the guy you like, this is a bold approach. You should be prepared for the possibility that he might be turned off by your forwardness.
However, if you’re feeling bold and confident, this can certainly pay off in the long run! Show him who you are and that you’re not afraid to ask for what you want.
2. Entice Him With Free Drinks and Food
To lessen the seriousness of asking the guy you like to a wedding, you can focus on the free food and free drink aspect of the event.
You can say something like “I know that weddings are fancy but I figured we could dress up and eat and drink on me.”
If you and your crush don’t have a big date budget, this could be a really fun way to get out there and enjoy a night without spending too much.
If he says yes, don’t forget to double-check to see if he has any food allergies. You wouldn’t want to disappoint him in that regard after talking up the free meal!
3. Ask Him Through a Text Message
If you want to give a guy some space and time to think about his answer, texting is the best way. Simply say: “Hey, do you want to go with me to a wedding this weekend? I think it’ll be fun!”
Don’t worry if you don’t hear back from him right away. He may be at work or away from his phone. It’s also ok if he takes some time to think about it.
If you two just started seeing each other or haven’t been on a date yet, it’s normal for him to consider his options or even ask a friend for advice. If you want to make him feel even more relaxed about the situation, go ahead and add “no pressure!” to the end of your message.
4. Let Him Know You Can Go As Friends
Plenty of people bring friends as plus ones to a wedding, so this can be a great way to take off the pressure if you’re not in an official dating phase.
You can say something like “Hey there! Would you be interested in going to a wedding with me? We can go as friends if that makes it more comfortable for you.”
The nice thing about this approach is that it may make him more open to the situation overall. He won’t have to overthink whether or not this is a sign of a serious relationship.
5. Tell Him You Can Leave Early
Another good idea is to give your date an “out” so they know that you will leave if the party gets too awkward or overwhelming. Tell him something along the lines of “I’d love if you could join me as a plus one for this wedding. And if it gets to be too much, we can leave early.”
This way, if he feels uncomfortable, he’ll know that it’s fine to go home and no one will feel awkward. It also shows him your maturity and understanding, which is always a nice thing for a guy to see in his potential partner.
6. Make a Joke Out of It
If you’re a particularly witty person with a good amount of self-confidence, go ahead and lean into the ask, making it a big deal.
Perhaps you could do something funny like getting on one knee in front of your man. He will be completely surprised if not confused by your sudden action that looks like a proposal.
Then say, “Will you join me as my date to my friend’s wedding, so we can dance the night away?”
He will appreciate the joke as well as the creativity you’ve put into the invitation. Making a fun situation out of an otherwise intense one can make it easy and casual for him to say yes.
7. Have a Friend Read Into The Situation
If you’re feeling extra nervous about the idea, ask a mutual friend to get a read on your guy. Have your friend ask him if he’s seeing anyone else at the time, or how serious your relationship is. Your friend can also ask him whether or not he is interested in you.
Then they can relay that to you so you know what kind of commitment level you’re dealing with before making any moves.
This way, it feels like a two-way conversation and not just one woman asking her crush out on an event date without knowing where two people stand.
8. Be Flirty About It
If you’re comfortable asking your guy to the wedding directly, consider turning up the heat and making it a bit flirty. Say something like “Hey there, I know this is totally random but a friend of mine’s wedding is coming up and I think you’d look super sexy in a suit! Would you be interested in going with me?”
The key here will be to make sure he knows that the invite isn’t too serious while letting him know that you’re attracted to him.
In the best case, he will be flirtatious back and you’ll have a deeper insight into how he feels about you as a potential partner.
Are You Supposed to Take a Date to a Wedding?
Yes, it’s customary to take a date to a wedding. But by no means are you obligated to! Going to a wedding by yourself actually shows confidence and can be an empowering experience. Some people don’t even include a plus one invite for weddings these days as a way to keep costs down and open up more seats.
This is good news because it takes the pressure off of you if the guy you like says no. It also means that you don’t have to feel guilty about not asking him if you don’t feel that you’re at that stage of a relationship yet.
You can always ask another friend, your family, or go solo. The most important thing is showing up and having fun!
When is it Too Soon to Ask Someone to Be Your Wedding Date?
If you’ve only gone on a couple of dates, it’s probably too soon to ask someone to be your wedding date. However, if you’ve been seeing the person exclusively for a few months and things are getting serious, then it’s fine to ask them at this point.
Time isn’t the only factor when finding the right timing for asking a guy to be your plus one to a wedding. You’ll need to feel confident enough to introduce him to your friends, and even their parents.
You will also want to make sure that he is ok with being left on his own. Since he won’t know anyone at the wedding, he will be talking to lots of strangers. You will also be socializing, so you won’t always be there to entertain him.
You’ll have to ask yourself how introverted or extroverted your guy is to decide if this is an appropriate situation to bring him into. If you’re not sure, just ask. Even before properly asking him about the wedding, you can ask him questions like, “Are you comfortable in a room full of strangers?”
If he’s adamantly against it, then chances are it’s a bit too soon to bring him along.
My name is Jenny and I love helping people with their relationships. I believe a few simple tips can help people massively improve their communication skills with their partners and really express themselves. Thanks for visiting!