How to Ask a Guy to Come Over to Your House (10 Things to Say)

Wondering how to ask a guy to come over to your house? You’ve come to the right place.

We’ve compiled a list of suggestions to get him to come over without you feeling weird or awkward about asking!

How to Ask a Guy to Come Over to Your House

1. “Do You Want to Play Board Games?”

Board games are a great way to connect without having to make up a conversation every moment while hanging out. There are also many different types to play, so you can choose one that is best for your relationship with this man.

For example, if you want to get to know this guy better, you can play a game like Taboo. If you want to get a little more intimate, there are games like Cards Against Humanity and Joking Hazard that can help break the ice in a fun way.

You can also ask him if he has any favorite games to recommend or bring over to your home.

2. “I’m Having Some Friends Over. Would You Like to Join?”

couple walking

It can feel more laid-back and casual to ask a guy over to your home when you are hosting other people, especially if this is a new man in your life. This casual approach might be best when the two of you are just getting started in a relationship and need time for things to progress at their own pace before becoming more serious.

This is best when you want to avoid making plans that seem too serious or getting into an awkward conversation about why this guy will be coming over to your house.

You can also make it clear that you would like him to come but not feel obligated if he is unable or doesn’t want to do so. You can also ask him if he has any friends that would like to join you and the other guests at your home for a fun night together.

3. “I’m Tired of This Party. Let’s Go Somewhere Else”

couple talking

Sometimes the best time to ask a guy to come over is when you’re already hanging out. This way, there is already some momentum between the two of you and it will feel natural to ask.

Keep in mind that asking someone to come home with you after a date has certain implications. You should not say this unless you’re already considering inviting him into your bedroom.

On the other hand, if you want to take things a little bit slower, make sure to clarify this to him instead of leading him on. There’s no problem with letting him know that you don’t expect the night to end up between the sheets.

4. “I’d Love to Watch a Movie at My Place. Would You Like to Come Over?”

couple conversing

“Netflix and chill” is the modern-day equivalent of “let’s hang out” when you’re romantically interested in someone and don’t want to make a big deal out of the date.

You can ask him if he has any movies that are his favorites or ones that he’s watched recently, so you can pick something out together.

This casual approach might be best when the two of you are just getting started with dating and need time for things to progress at their own pace before becoming more serious.

As a bonus, this will help you avoid awkward silences and bad dates because it takes the pressure off of having to come up with conversation points on your date when a movie is playing. You can just enjoy one another’s company instead!

5. “I Would Love to Get To Know You Better. Can I Have You Over For Some Drinks and Conversation?”

woman looking at a guy

This direct approach can be a little bit uncomfortable for some people. But it’s great for intellectuals and those looking for deep dives in new relationships.

However, if you’ve been dating someone and feel ready to make things more serious between the two of you, it’s best not to hold back from saying exactly what you’re thinking.

Most likely he would love nothing more than to spend time with just the two of you as well, so this is a win-win situation.

If you have some topics in mind that you would like to discuss with him, let him know what you plan on discussing.

Make sure to prepare some snacks, create a good ambiance in your home, and play some music. This will help things to go much more smoothly and naturally once he arrives.

6. “I Have a Great Record Collection at My House. Want to Check It Out?”

This is just one example of many things you could say to your guy to let him know you want to show him something cool in your home. If you don’t have a record collection, maybe you have a really neat plant or art collection you can share.

When you have something to show him, it will give you two a better excuse for spending time together in one place than having to come up with conversation topics on the fly or trying to figure out what movie to watch.

7. “I Would Love to Cook Dinner for You Tonight!”

couple having fun

Dinner is the way to a man’s heart and a home-cooked meal is one of the best ways to show your guy how much you care to spend time with him.

It’s difficult to prepare a homemade meal in a public area or another person’s kitchen, so the invite will feel natural and make sense to your guy.

However, if you’re still learning the ropes in the kitchen or don’t have much experience baking bread dough alone, it might be best to ask him to come to enjoy some takeout or for another reason.

8. “Can You Help Me Install My New Air Conditioner?”

couple carying boxes

Asking for help is a great way to let your guy know you want him around.

However, it’s important not to ask for help if the installation is too difficult or dangerous. You definitely don’t want to put him in an unsafe situation and have him leave making that association with you and your home.

Ask for help with small tasks such as a little bit of heavy lifting or helping out with a small to medium-sized cleaning or organizational task.

Make sure to do something nice for him to thank him for his help, such as offering him a drink or snack.

9. “Come Over and Meet My Dog Some Time!”

Most people love dogs and spending time with them is a great way to break the ice and get to know someone.

If your guy doesn’t like dogs, though, this might not be the best reason for him to come over right away unless he’s willing to at least give it a shot.

However, if you have another dog lover in mind that you want as your guest, this might be a good way to get the two of them together.

10. “My Roommates Are Out of Town. Would You Like to Hang Out?”

guys sipping coffee

If you’ve been dating someone for a while and want to take things up a notch, it might be time to invite them over without the influence of other people.

This is especially good if your roommates are outgoing or tend to dominate your dates because you will be able to take up the whole living space and have privacy.

This is a great opportunity for a more romantic gathering such as a dinner for two, a movie night on the couch, or an intimate massage.

Jenny Muscolo
Jenny Muscolo

My name is Jenny and I love helping people with their relationships. I got my Masters in human sexuality at Northwestern University, and love what I do.

I believe a few simple tips can help you massively improve your communication skills with your partners, which leads to better interactions. Thanks for visiting!